What’s Wrong With My Child And How Might I Correct It?
As parents raising our own children, there is doubtlessly going to be troublesome phases when our children appear to be going through a tricky time, having Problems coping at school or their emotional nature a little more sensitive than usual. They maybe finding it tough to make friends. Their behaviour might be exhausting to the point of frustration for a bit.
Usually, our children will grow out of it and move on to the subsequent stage of their life.
But what if this phase continues? Tasks are becoming way too much of a struggle and our kid complains of being beat all the time, not being able to keep up in the same way as their peers and quite frankly finding it tougher than maybe it should always be to cope in class/and or home. ADHD, ADD, dyslexia and various other labels could have been recommended and your youngster's “phase” is now changing into a clear problem and is making their world stronger than it should be. This is when we need to look beyond thinking that it may be just a phase in their development and ask ourselves is there something else going on?
There are many factors that make a contribution to a kid being able to move well, talk fluently, play and develop the abilities required for every day academic, and social learning. Without getting too far into the structure and function of the neuro developmental system they include:
MOVEMENT & Developmental MILESTONES
As babies we all have a development movement sequence that we follow, this maps neurological pathway’s in the brain. The majority of it occurs thru natural movements and play. First we learn to roll, then to creep on our tummies, then to rock on hands and knees, then to crawl, and then we stand up, gain our balance and learn to walk. All of the time we are progressing through vital developmental stages, we are setting the building blocks in place for learning readiness. We are building up strength and co-ordination, our eyes learn how to focus and we have begun to seem sensible of our physical world.
SENSORY INTEGRATION
Both hyper and hypo sensitiveness cause irregular functions in smell, taste, tactility, vision, hearing and can confuse the appreciation of where ones private body is in space.
It is really important to understand the attentional priorities of the children we are engaging, as we each have different concerns based on our own sensory perception of a situation. A sensitive kid may simply be ready to focus on the system/s that is taking over their central nervous system. If the sensory system hasn't integrated in a developed fashion it will be most unlikely to focus on specific activities and block out unwanted background noise, smells, touches and other stimuli. The foundations of the senses have to be rock solid for the higher sensory systems to operate effectively so making us socially, and emotionally more at ease and able to cope with jobs such as reading, writing, and mathematics.
Spotting evidence of a weak or immature neurological system:
- Disorganized and/or poor organizational skills
- Intense mood changes
- Without knowing left from right
- Clumsiness
- Always in motion
- Fatigue
- Problems balancing
- Easily disorientated
- Poor sitting position
- Car sickness
- Mirror writing
- The left out child
- Shoes on the incorrect feet
- Hatred of loud or unexpected serious noises
- Avoidance of crowded places or team sports
Approaching and conquering theses difficulties
Part of the puzzle is that a kid can be struggling for a considerable number of reasons. We need to consider all areas that may be having an effect on or have affected the child through their life, such as: birth, health factors, nourishment, allergies and intolerances, emotional difficulties, stress, environmental surroundings, reflex integration, sensory sensitivities and development milestones.
We need to do not forget to target the reasons for the Problems not the symptoms.
So where do we go from here?You may have many choices to make and it can be hard to know quite what to do to achieve the best result. It's important to find the right professional at the right time. One that can lead you with a holistic viewpoint and refer you to other pros should they see this as more beneficial.
Answering a questionnaire before you commit to any therapy can be a good way for both mother and father and therapists to make a good start. A more clear understanding and guidance can start to flow from there on. You can also speak to other folks that can have gone through, or are going thru similar issues that perhaps can offer some guidance. Find parent support groups that you can join and do not be frightened to ask. About things you are confusing of. Search sites, read relevant material for information and teach yourself about what maybe going on with your youngster. Be prepared that there won't be a “quick fix” as neurological issues that have manifested over a period will also take some time to strengthen and restore balance. Also, always keep in mind, that so as to treat, we must look at the kid in total.
How can I help my kid?
- Decide on the approach that best fits your child and family circumstances and commit to one approach at a previous time.
- Do not mix 'n match treatments unless you have been given the go ahead by the pro you are seeing. This can overload the kid.
- Explain to your kid what you do and what you have found out so that any fear or blame of failure can be alleviated from your child.
- Inspire your youngster's gifted areas so they have recognition of special accomplishment and use positive words of support.
- Give your child a chance to relax after a hard day in school. It is no different from us being at work all day.
- Help them to become involved in activities they enjoy and nurture the areas they're naturally drawn toward.
By evaluating, understanding a kid and taking a worldwide viewpoint we are able to get to the root cause of a child’s issues, identify weak and juvenile areas and start to reinforce those neurological systems that are endeavoring to cope. In doing so we are giving the kid the chance to reach their full potential, buttressing them from the inside out.
Rachael Sherry is a mom, NLP expert and independent writer specializing in relationship advice.
