How To Teach Young Adults Good Anger Management Skills
A house which is calm and is relaxed is normally a great place to be. Both parents are going to argue and have their differences, however they need to be adult enough to wait to discuss their issues once the kids have gone out or are in bed.
We are a very busy household where both parents work; I run a security company and my partner runs a company which offers homecare products as well as one that enables people to obtain affordable air compressors.
I am also a parent and am by no means a perfect dad. I have told my children that all I expect of them is to try their best, as long as they do this, it does not matter what grades they achieve. Two years ago my step-daughter who is now twelve started to play up, especially at school. I was quite shocked when I attended her parents evening to find out that she had not handed in her homework, that she had made little effort in the past couple of terms and that she had been disruptive to other members of her class.
I was rather annoyed and that is to put it politely. I was spitting feathers but needed to control my anger – I therefore stated that I was in no mood to discuss the situation at this present moment but that I would talk to her later in the evening. When we had arrived home, I stated to her that I was upset about what I had heard and informed her that if she had done well, I would have bought her anything that she wanted, up to a certain amount of money. She was quite shocked by that and stated, even the England football kit? I said that I would have but that she was not having it now. I did however agree that if she did well during the next few terms, that I would.
I am happy to report that she is now performing to somewhere near her optimum but that it is costing me a small fortune. We also have a weekly bribe. If both of my children behave during the week they can choose a toy of their choice on the Saturday, again within reason. If and it often happens they do not deserve the toy, I have no need to become angry as they just do not get the reward. As you will no doubt imagine this is something which makes them hugely frustrated however it is something that also teaches them a valueable lesson in life.
Some would no doubt say that this is some sort of cop out however it is working very nicely in my house thank you very much.
